tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-296801289765477888.post1545326250262953710..comments2023-03-24T22:05:06.388-04:00Comments on Confessions of a Real Mom; the down and dirty: Just Curious - Why Adopt?J-mommahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08752445363877406264noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-296801289765477888.post-7436618064620947312009-01-27T13:53:00.000-05:002009-01-27T13:53:00.000-05:00Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting!We w...Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting!<BR/>We went the foster care route with our first for financial reasons and ended up fostering total of four infants and toddlers over the course of a year. Our Isaac was our second and the first and only from foster care to be adopted.<BR/><BR/>We went into a domestic infant adoption next and 3 months later our baby girl was born! We feel very blessed to be parents and it was not going to happen in any other way than adoption. I love reading adoption stories as well!Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07502259594425550745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-296801289765477888.post-1503239376700544672009-01-13T20:32:00.000-05:002009-01-13T20:32:00.000-05:00I have both bio kids and an adopted child. I can p...I have both bio kids and an adopted child. I can positively say that yes you can indeed love an adopted child every bit as much as a bio child!<BR/><BR/>My bio kids were from a previous marriage. Had my tubes tied after having my 2nd. My husband was happy to accept my 2 as his. A few years later I really wanted another child. I could have gotten the tubal reversed but that didn't appeal to me. I loved the idea of adopting a child who was already living in this worls in need of parents. I brought the subject up to my husband and the words were barely out of my mouth before he said yes.<BR/><BR/>I was afraid of having a birth mother change her mind, so we didn't even look into domestic adoption. (i realize now how stupid that kind of thinking is) We were planning on Russia. We saw a photo of a baby boy on a photolisting. Contacted the agency and started the process. Turned out he was in Kazakhstan, not in Russia. Then it turned out the agency was corrupt and the photolisting was illegal and also a bait and switch tactic. Many, many thousands of dollars later we went to Kaz to adopt a different child. It was a long road full of hard knocks, but in the end we brought home our amazing son. I wouldn't trade him for any other child in the world!!!<BR/><BR/>We would love to adopt again. Even after surviving and adoption scam. This time we will be more informed and make better decisions though. Not sure if we will do domestic or international. I feel as though it may be better for my son if he is not the only internationally adopted child in the home, so I feel we may choose IA again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00781164870994615088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-296801289765477888.post-19559098792213041912009-01-12T22:14:00.000-05:002009-01-12T22:14:00.000-05:00We were very close to adopting before even trying ...We were very close to adopting before even trying to get pregnant, but we didn't know much about foster care then (and I was still a student when we decided the time was right) so we tried to conceive for about 18 months, doing nothing beyond Clomid. When that didn't work, we checked into private adoption but got *really* turned off by the sliding scale of fees for babies of different races so we started fostering - Lily was our third placement.... along the way there were a couple of weird friends of family situations that didn't pan out and a false start with the agency who placed Lucy with us - they were the only one we contacted that had set fees that were low enough to not feel coercive. So that's how we got here. We really want our next child to come from foster care as well, and we're secretly hoping for an AA boy. So that's our story.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08954918065641135178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-296801289765477888.post-63116375323183614342009-01-12T20:44:00.000-05:002009-01-12T20:44:00.000-05:00For us, I nearly died during an infertility test. ...For us, I nearly died during an infertility test. Scared the heck out of my husband and myself. Decided that God wanted us to do our family another way (months of discussion back and forth). Finally decided on adoption. Checked out foster care and it quite frankly scared us. Decided to check out international. Hubby loves Russia, studied it extensively. Thought we would have a "healthy baby boy". Yeah--then we got the call about our little princess that was cleft-affected with amniotic banding and never looked back. Then decided we we're comfortable with clefts--let's do it again this time with a boy. Ended up in Kazakhstan. Then did it again this time with an older cleft-affected child from Krygzstan. Would do it again in a heartbeat. Why did we go international?? I can't really say why except that's where our children were and that's where we felt the call.janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05960598252053778060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-296801289765477888.post-80002472172386973042009-01-12T10:49:00.000-05:002009-01-12T10:49:00.000-05:00After 3 miscarriages, we decided to adopt. We had...After 3 miscarriages, we decided to adopt. We had always talked about adopting and decided that this is how our family would be built. We had no desire to try in vitro or anything else along those lines. Having a child that shares our DNA did not matter to us....it probably didn't need to be spread anyway! We decided on domestic adoption and chose to adopt a child "of color"...meaning any race or any race mix or any race that is not just caucasian. Our daughter Anna is bi-racial, her birthmother is caucasian and birthfather is african american. She was born 9 months after we started our adoption paperwork...ironic?...our son Carver is black, his birthmother is from the Virgin Islands and birthfather is african american. We started our paperwork in February of 08, assuming that it would take around the same amount of time that it took for Anna, but we all know what happens when we assume and Carver was born in the end of April! So, they are 17 months apart to the day...they were both born on the 29th or their birth months. We have had both of them since birth, we met Anna the day after she was born and she was discharged from the hospital to us...I was able to be in the delivery room for Carver's c-section! So, that's our story!The Knott Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01216739664988429653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-296801289765477888.post-63362312120151132272009-01-12T08:58:00.000-05:002009-01-12T08:58:00.000-05:00matthew, i would love to read about your story. b...matthew, i would love to read about your story. but you have your profile blocked. if you'd rather not share, that is fine. just thought i'd let you know, no one on this blog can access your blog.J-mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08752445363877406264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-296801289765477888.post-83189037897229815362009-01-11T20:31:00.000-05:002009-01-11T20:31:00.000-05:00I should address your question on my blog...I thin...I should address your question on my blog...I think I will after this stomach bug fully leaves! but long story short, we chose international adoption because I lived the first nineteen years of my life overseas in Africa and wanted a child from my "home." More later!Matthew Monberghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09509019691044369931noreply@blogger.com